On October 5, 2012 I found out that I was going to be laid off as an Inside Sales Account Manager at UPS Freight. I had worked there for just less than 5 years. November 30, 2012 was my last day of work there. It has now been one year since I have been out of work and I thought that I would share some of my reflections with you.
Not having my own income is suffocating. I used to be able to run to the dollar store or Smith's two or three times each month and spend $20 and it was no big deal. I could go out to lunch a few times each month and get take out/eat out a few times each month and it was fine. It was my money and if I wanted to spend a little, I would. I wouldn't consider myself a big spender but I do miss being able to buy holiday decorations and whatever else without feeling like I have to clear it through my husband. I do have savings that I have been able to use but I don't want to spend any more of it. From here on out, I'll have to beg money from my husband and hope he gives me some. (He totally will give me some when we have extra in any given month. He really is a great guy and not too much of a money grinch.)
Being a stay at home mom is awesome. I love being able to be there for my kids and being a part of their lives. I love being able to do play dates, go to the park, and volunteer at Talon's preschool. Snuggling with my kids is one of my favorite things in the whole world. It's nice being with them in the morning when they are pleasant instead of just at night for a couple of hours when they are tired, hungry, and just plain grumpy. It's nice being able to take my kids to the zoo and the aquarium and all those fun places during the week when it is less crowded. I get to take naps most afternoons!
Being a stay at home mom is terrible. There is never enough time in the day and yet the days drag on and on. I get sick of my kids every single day and I can't wait until my husband gets home at about 7:30is each night to help me take care of the them. I feel trapped like I can't go anywhere, despite being home and having no other obligations, because it is so miserable to haul the kids around places. I feel super unproductive so often. Being covered in other people's bodily fluids gets old fast.
There are a lot of other perks, too. I like that when I am sick I can just stay at home and not have to worry
about sick time or missing too much work. I love being at home during
the day so that I can help others by doing things like bringing meals to
new moms, which was super hard to do when I would get home from work at
5:30. Being able to wear my sweat or yoga pants all day long long is one of the best things ever. I can eat real food, snack, and bake cookies whenever I want. I have time to do random stuff like blog.
I really do enjoy staying at home and the benefits far outweigh the bad stuff. I do plan on going back to school and going back to work eventually, but for now, this is me.
Do you stay at home? Do you work? Share some of your thoughts and experiences!
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